Three Days In Delhi

My curiosity and sort of attachment to Afghanistan, its capital Kabul and its people started after I read Rabindranath Tagore’s ‘Kabuliwala’ when I was in the school

Aug. 14, 2017, 12:20 p.m.

The slogan ‘Delhi door nahi’ has always been enthusing me to be there.  A ride on ‘Delhi Tourism bus’ for what they call Delhi Darshan, was another dream that I nursed since my childhood.And eventually when I stepped my feet there, what I can recall now is the huge crowd on the street and the resultant traffic jam. Delhi still used to have two faces: Old Delhi with lots of historical monuments, narrow streets and delicious traditional foods which all represented a civilization that prevailed there centuries ago. Then, there was New Delhi, a more planned and modern part with luxurious bungalows and apartments, and vehicles always in a hurry to race despite jammed roads. Historically, Delhi has been a shelter for various cultures that will attract job seekers, students and others looking for more opportunities ever since it became the national capital.

I went to Delhi again 17 years later. This time, I saw a lot of Afghanis in the airports and bus stops. My curiosity and sort of attachment to Afghanistan, its capital Kabul and its people started after I read Rabindranath Tagore’s ‘Kabuliwala’ when I was in the school. The story is about a vendor from Kabul who thought India was a place where he could work, earn money and send it to his family back home.  He meets a little girl in whom he sees an image of his own small daughter. He starts frequenting the locality to see her. Some unexpected turn of events lands him the Kabuliwala to jail, and spends 18 years there. When he’s released, he goes back to the same locality only to find that the little girl has been married off and away from there. This makes him wonder about his own daughter and her situation.

I was in Delhi again after a gap of 17 years. I hired a cab. I asked Driver his name. He was Shankar, and from his accent I could easily find out he was from Darjeeling. But he did not seem keen to carry out further conversation after I told him I am from Nepal. All that he told me was he came to India as a teenager.  He dropped me at my destination after a long and silent drive.

Part Two

On the second day, I went to a family friend’s office a bit early. She asked me to wait as she was on the way. Her temporary house maid, a pregnant lady with a child on her arm opened the door. I heard her speaking to her child in Nepali, and began conversing with me in Nepali, happily and openly. She felt more happy to know that I was a Nepali. She told me that she was there cooking for my family friend while her permanent helper was away. The permanent help was a Nepali speaking Indian from around Himachal who was currently away in his village for his daughter’s marriage. She then started narrating her own life story.

 She was an orphan from Siliguri. Looking for opportunities, she reached Delhi as teenager and started working as a house maid. She met her ‘would be’ husband, a Nepali from Okhaldunga, few years later. Both of them were doing labor based work. She had been pregnant once before her current child but got it aborted when she found out it was a girl. She said it was her own independent decision without any pressure from her husband. She told me she wanted to save her daughter to go through the hardships a woman has to face in this world. She said her life was difficult. Having to live in a small rented room surrounded by luxury apartments and malls gave her a miserable feeling. As she couldn’t afford to rent a proper apartment so she planned to buy a terrace for 7-10 Indian lakh rupees, and pay in installment the little amount that she fell short of. Unfortunately, her plans to open a mo:mo  got the first blow by her pregnancy, and second, by the move by the Modi government  against such food stalls. But she was determined to make some money for which she planned to work during the first seven months of her pregnancy facing all odds during that stage. But she also realized that she would not enough space for her two children to grow together.  She was therefore planning to send her older daughter to her husband’s village once she was five to be looked after by grandparents. Strangely, she had not met her husband’s family even once but was counting on their guardianship to her daughter. 

Part three and last

 Day three was different. I was flipping through magazines in a beauty parlor while I waited for my friend. Surprisingly, my friend’s assistant there asked me if I understood Nepali. Initial exchange of pleasantries and demolition of language barrier at once brought us nearer. She began sharing about her life, and experiences revolving around it.

Delhi became her destination, a place of hope and opportunities, when she eloped with her boyfriend two months ago. Her family was opposed to their inter caste union. She was working as house maid for an old couple. They were provided a free room on the terrace. She was a Chettri, while her husband was a Magar, eight years older to her. She was the youngest child in her family.  Her father was a teacher in a village school. She was sent for higher education to Nepalgunj in western Nepal.  And, it was there that she met her would be husband twice through a mutual friend. They stayed connected through Facebook and mobile phone.  Intimacy developed. They fell in love and eloped.

She was happy with the decision.  She said she had a very loving husband who prepared lunch and Tiffin for her every day. Her house owner was very kind and supportive. He encouraged her to begin work at a beauty parlor and was even willing to have her enrolled in a college in future. Despite all this, she felt sad at times not having someone around to speak in Nepali and share her thoughts. Delhi had Nepali speaking people in abundance, but connecting with them was not easy. Everyone had their story and circumstances that brought them to Delhi but most of them were ‘reserve’, and not willing to talk about it. In a sense, others were different from her.

She talked about her happy days spent with the family before she was discarded. Last year’s Dashai that she celebrated with her parents was naturally deeply engrained in her memories, cherishing that such an occasion will return in future. She dreamed of being in her house and neighborhood with over looking green hills, rivers, flowers, family and friends but there were no signs of her parents being ‘soft’ towards her.Being in Delhi and far away from her home and family was still a cultural shock for her. Sometimes she felt being watched. She’d choose routes that were less crowded even if they were longer.

Happiness is a state of mind, and is strengthened by the ability to cope with adverse situation. Some may want to share it, and some may even conceal their identity as I noticed during my three days stay in Delhi. But our past and circumstances continues to chase us like a shadow does to our body. Challenge lies in appreciating all that and moving on.



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Abhilasha Sharma

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